If you often find yourself walking on eggshells around your partner because you’re so used to the smallest comment spiraling into a full blown conflict…

…then one solution for you is to get really clear on what your unmet needs are.

Because the actual substance of the fight is almost always never the real issue.

(Last time I had a fight with my husband it was about lentils being put to boil. Let me tell you, it was NOT about the lentils)

What was it about?

I was feeling burned out and tired, and my need for safety, trust, and feeling held was far from met. 

Most conflict - especially that chronic, easy-to-trigger kind - 

Is built on a hotbed of unmet emotional needs, unprocessed pain, and stories you don’t even realize you’re still carrying.