If you’re an ambitious professional who’s feeling unsure about your partner because you’re carrying all the responsibilities and taking the lead on virtually everything in your relationship…

…and all you feel is alone and unsupported in it…

…and sometimes even like you’re maybe doing too much (though you also feel like you can’t fully depend on them)...

…the way forward for you lies in:

When you are expected to guide the therapist with what you want to talk about, it can be near impossible to go to the murkier, darker recesses of your subconscious. You may go there accidentally, but you certainly are unlikely to want to stay there. In fact, the human brain is pretty incredible at repressing and hiding things from us. So that keeps you stuck at the superficial, surface level of things.

Beneath this superficial veneer, though, is where all of your deeper issues lie. These are composed of your subconscious blocks, beliefs, core wounds, and other bits of conditioning that you will have accrued since childhood - between the ages of 0-8 in fact.

He started to subconsciously actively avoid spending time alone where he’d be left with his own thoughts – about the marriage, about how he was feeling, about his needs.

He started working out more, going to the gym.

He started spending more time on social media, scrolling LinkedIn. He even found himself connecting with a few women on there, though obviously not looking to do anything wrong or immoral, they just seemed to have interesting careers - and his career was giving him life.

Before he knew it, years had passed by…

My own behavior as a woman who spent much of her adult life biting her tongue and squashing down her feelings at fear of causing drama, being too much, or upsetting her partner testifies to this.

I know that when I have felt upset, or hurt, or betrayed, or sensed any disconnect with my partner, and I have squashed it down because I dread revealing it to them, or I am simply too busy or need to rush to work, or respond to emails, or just want to have a peaceful night, and so have squashed it down…

...you know you’re not feeling 100% sure about your relationship and it’s frustrating you. In fact, it’s giving you anxiety. And you’re not sure that you can keep avoiding the issue and burying yourself into your work because…well, when you’re not able to sleep at night, blinking into the dark at 3am wondering ‘what do I do?’ it’s clearly not something you can ignore.

I am so grateful, so unspeakably grateful, that I never gave up on creating the healthy, loving, secure relationship that I know now I deserve.

I am so grateful that I fought for more.

That even when things felt dark, and my future felt so bleak…

…alone, blinking into the dark of our apartment, fighting back tears at midnight, unable to sleep…

…exhausted from endless marriage counseling, processing with my therapist, and feeling afraid of my future…

…feeling alone, unsupported, and scared…

…in my 30s, wanting a family, wanting stability, wanting to finally feel true love and live a full life…

I’m so grateful that I fought for more.

Plenty of people simply marry the wrong person.

There is such a thing as marrying the wrong person.

And the worst thing is, you may only find this out AFTER many years have passed.

Typically after the honeymoon has worn off.

The hormones have calmed down.

The oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, and all the delicious cocktail of love-inducing feelings that we get submerged into when we fall in love…have worn off.

You do not have as much time as you want.

The morbid reality of this is that we waste so much of our lives faffing about.

Achieving very little.

Complaining about things.

Offloading to our friends, rather than finding tangible solutions

Scrolling on instagram, or LinkedIn, procrastinating…rather than looking inside to see how we’re really feeling

Burying our heads in the sand, numbing out, avoiding things…drinking that extra glass of wine, watching that Netflix show rather than digging deep into WHY we’re numbing out

One of the hardest things we can experience in a relationship is the feeling of uncertainty and indecision. When we feel stuck in a state of limbo, unable to move forward and relax into the relationship, or unable to exit and start our life anew, we can feel trapped.

It can feel exhausting, in fact.

Being in this liminal space between wanting to stay, loving them, and making it work…but also feeling unsupported, alone, and afraid of your future together…

Feeling like you have to walk around on eggshells a fair amount of the time…

Feeling like there is something wrong with you, maybe you’re fault finding, nit picking, seeing flaws where there shouldn't be any…

Or maybe you’re actually right to be feeling anxious and nervous, maybe there are actually red flags going on…

Maybe you should stay and double down…maybe you should go and find an easier relationship…

…is incredibly hard.

The longer we have been together with someone, the more likely it seems that we are going to have some resentment for each other. It doesn’t always have to be the case, but it sadly often is.

I see this especially in couples who are busy, working long hours, traveling extensively, and finding themselves locked into tight schedules where there is little time to spend ‘processing’ and ‘wallowing’ in their feelings.

In fact, if you’re a career driven professional, you have very little bandwidth indeed to waste on figuring these things out, and so it's inevitable that over time small injuries will accrue and turn into large resentments. This is precisely why I specialize in working with career-driven executives and entrepreneurs who work long hours, run tight schedules, and don’t have time for endless years of therapy ‘processing’ their feelings.

You asked…and I’ve delivered!

I am so thrilled to announce something very exciting that I know lots of you have been waiting for.

And if you’re feeling disappointed with your relationship…

….and unsure why you’re feeling so disappointed, alone, and unsupported…

…having to make all the big decisions in your relationship, like you have to lead things alone, shoulder the weight of it all, and make all the effort…

…and you desperately wanting things to be better

Because you love your partner, and ultimately, you want to fix things

But you don’t want to have to drag them to marriage counseling or do tons more therapy…

…then this is for you.

Virtually every client I work with works super long hours.

Founder of multiple businesses.

CHRO of a global investment bank.

Hollywood Film Director.

Managing Director of a retail bank.

Vegan food founder.

And every client wants to have a happy, healthy, true love relationship with their partner and to live a full life.

I did too.

I’ve always been a high achiever, working long hours, not because I ‘needed’ to, but because I’ve always loved my work.

I’ve always had a passion and drive to achieve, to build, to create, to make manifest what I know is possible for me.

So I can get lost into 10 hour days without even realising it.