Blog Posts
Why have we lost the spark in bed? How you’ve lost intimacy with your partner.
Ever found yourself just going through the motions in bed with your partner - ?
No eye contact.
No closeness.
No spark.
More two people rubbing their bits together.
And…it ends as quickly as it starts.
Before you know it, you’re both back on your phones.
NOT.
Well, let me tell you that first of all - this is no way to live.
And second of all, the reason you’re having such a terrible intimate life is because you and your partner no no longer feel emotionally safe with each other.
Yes, you might still “function” as a couple - raising kids, running a household, showing up to barbeques and dinner parties, bla bla bla - but deep down, the emotional safety is gone.
The real intimacy is dead, basically.
Why are you walking around on eggshells so much?
If you often find yourself walking on eggshells around your partner because you’re so used to the smallest comment spiraling into a full blown conflict…
…then one solution for you is to get really clear on what your unmet needs are.
Because the actual substance of the fight is almost always never the real issue.
(Last time I had a fight with my husband it was about lentils being put to boil. Let me tell you, it was NOT about the lentils)
What was it about?
I was feeling burned out and tired, and my need for safety, trust, and feeling held was far from met.
Most conflict - especially that chronic, easy-to-trigger kind -
Is built on a hotbed of unmet emotional needs, unprocessed pain, and stories you don’t even realize you’re still carrying.
What are Some of the Best Relationship Books? Here’s 6 to Consider
In what ways are we making our partner feel loved, even as we balance the demands of work and our own needs? When we are seeking clarity on life’s tough decisions, we can, and should, turn to professionals to help guide us, but we should also expand our mind by picking up a good book