Love your work but barely see your wife and kids? Then this is for you.
Are you a guy who LOVES his work and happily does 12+ hour days, and often disappears into your emails and deals after dinner?
But it’s okay because your wife doesn’t mind (she’s on the couch scrolling anyway) and you’re gunning for the big $$$ to bring home?
Well, you might want to take a closer look at your marriage before you declare everything to be fine and slink back to your office.
Because I am telling you now, I have yet to meet a woman who can honestly say she is happy with her husband working 12+ hour days daily long term.
I also have yet to meet a family that thrived when their father was away for so much of the time - even if he brought home millions.
The absence of complaints does not mean everything is okay.
It often means she’s checked out.
Now, I’m not saying kill your ambition.
Or cut your hours in half.
What I am saying is:
You better be damn sure the hours you’re working are strategic, efficient, and building something that actually supports the life you say you want.
And equally -
You better know how to use the time you do have at home to create connection, safety, and intimacy with your wife and family.
That doesn’t mean flowers or forced eye contact or some dramatic “date night reset.”
It means:
Knowing what your wife actually needs to feel safe and connected (not more jewelry)
Understanding what your kids need (not the latest gadgets)
Knowing your own blocks to intimacy - and removing them
Communicating like someone who’s emotionally intelligent, not just successful
And once you’ve figured that out, you will want to have optimized your chances of making these things happen on autopilot, so it’s not something you have to think, worry or stress about, it just happens when you’re NOT working…quite easefully.
Yes, you can do this :)
This is the really smart work.
This is what the A players do.
Because the guy who knows how to do this has everything he’s ever wanted.
He doesn’t burn out.
He doesn’t get blindsided by divorce. And he sure as hell doesn’t lose half his assets to a woman who hasn’t felt seen in a decade.
He’s calm, clear, connected - and successful in all arenas.
Yes, you can create a life for yourself where you get to play in the professional world, all you want, make all the money, fulfil your mission AND have a happy wife and family…
But it requires some ground work first.
It doesn’t just fall into your lap. That’s a Hollywood myth.
Now, that ground work will require you to do a bit of thinking and strategizing.
But it doesn’t need to be scary.
You will need to understand her psychology a bit, and also yours, and figure out a gameplan to make sure you’re both happy - that’s all just science.
You will also need to clear out any of your own internal blocks to intimacy that you might have which will be blocking you from finding things comfortable and easy.
Because most people will have some blocks around intimacy and they’re going to be weighing you down.
The good news is, this doesn’t have to be hard or scary to get rid of either - in fact, it can be quite fun, because once you clear those blocks out, you will get braver and stronger - which is a very attractive quality to your partner anyway - so it’s a win win.
It will also make you bolder and more courageous in the workspace, so that’s a benefit too.
You’ll also want to master good communication, which will not only help your family life and relationship but also make you a better leader at work, so that’s pretty good.
Really, all of this so-called ‘work’ to improve your relationship actually benefits you in every other arena of your life too, it’s barely work.
It upgrades everything:
You become more confident in your leadership
You make bolder moves professionally
You stop second-guessing your worth - at home and at work
And your marriage becomes a safe place to land and replenish your energy instead of an emotional drain
It’s a smart investment into leveling up your skills and capacity to be someone you can truly admire and be proud of.
In fact, there’s lots of studies to show that people who are ultra happy and connected and satisfied in their marriage go on to make more money. Which makes total sense, because those people are highly competent in the realms of intimacy, and money is frankly, very intimate. It’s literally a symbol of your capacity to receive and be supported.
Now, this isn’t something you can DIY.
Reading books or blogs on intimacy, or some godforsaken book on marriage won’t do much.
Because, firstly, only 1% or so of what you read is actually implemented (scientific fact there).
But also, learning retention is notoriously terrible from self-led learning.
You can’t teach yourself these new tricks.
You won’t see through your own blind spots.
You need support and someone to show you how to do this- which is way faster and more efficient and easier.
And precisely what I help with!
I can help you.
In fact, in my signature methodology, I can help you totally turn this around.
Over 90 days, I will help you:
Liberate yourself from any old block and self-sabotage that are holding you back in your relationship (and life in general);
Reconnect with yourself and your partner to identify what those true needs are and how to get them met;
Create strategies to optimize your work life and relationship, so that you are both happy long term.
We can either do this for 90 days as an intensive, or 6 months if you’re pressed for time and want to move at a more leisurely pace. Book an intro call here to see what’s best for you.
If you want to blend this with leveling up your career throughout it with leadership capabilities, then my 12 month engagement is the best fit, so we can work on your relationship, career, AND increase your income generating capacities.
