How are you spending the second half of your life?

19 Mar

If your partner rarely looks up when you come home, scrolling through Instagram on their phone on the couch, and you find yourself sitting in silence most evenings doing ‘your own thing’...

…So more often than not, your evenings are spent doing more work emails because it’s easier than sitting with the ache of feeling unseen…

Then you've got to start getting really honest with yourself about what your future looks like and what the heck you’re going to do about it.

Specifically, is this what you want the second half of your life to look like - and if not, what DO you want it to look like?

And how do you plan to get there?

Because I will tell you now, in all my experience:

This is not ‘just a phase’.

And it will not ‘just get better with time’.

It will only get worse.

It will only get worse.

And unfortunately, most high-achievers in your position wait an average of six years before taking action.

6 years before they confront the fact that their marriage has gone down the toilet, they haven’t been intimate for months, and their partner literally doesn’t even look up when they come home.

This is NO way to live.

Of course, by then:

The relationship is barely hanging on (so couples counselling rarely works).
Intimacy has been dead for months (or years).
….You’re looking at a painful divorce process with massive financial fallout.

You have ONE life. A few decades left to actually enjoy it.

Do you really want to look back and realize you spent years numbing yourself, avoiding the problem, and settling for a half-lived existence?

Because that’s exactly what’s happening when you:

Accept a relationship where your partner won’t even look up to greet you.

Distract yourself with work instead of addressing the real issue.

Tell yourself “it’s fine” while a part of you slowly dies inside.

Like seriously, what sort of life is this?

Most high-achievers ignore this problem for years because they’re so used to pushing through challenges - except this isn’t a problem you can just grind your way out of.

And if nothing changes, are you okay living the next 10-20 years exactly like this?

Or is it time to finally get clear on what you actually need to feel fulfilled?

The reality is you've got to start getting really honest with yourself about what you want the second half of your life to look like.

This can feel foreign to you - because likely you’re so busy achieving that you often don’t even stop to ask yourself what you need.

You know what you WANT from a monetary perspective.

And you want a certain career outcome…a legacy, impact, yes.

You probably want to travel a lot, and see the world, great.

And your kids to be happy and healthy, of course.

But what about YOU?

What do YOU need to have experience to know you’ve lived a rich and fulfilling life?

What level of intimacy? Happiness? Depth of conversation? Level of connection? Growth? Consciousness?

Tomorrow will be another day of meetings, responsibilities, and keeping it together.

And so you plod on, year after year, year after year, disconnected from yourself, from your partner, your relationship getting worse and worse…

…Until one day your partner tells you they want a divorce, and you’re hit with a huge court bill and settlement fees…

And all that grinding and those work emails become superseded by the biggest loss you have ever faced.

And now you’re literally alone - and older - and…and…and…what now?

Do you see where I am going with this?

You've got to start getting really honest with yourself about what your future looks like and what the heck you’re going to do about it.

Specifically, is THIS what you want the second half of your life to look like - and if not, what DO you want it to look like?

And HOW do you plan to get there?

What is your game plan?

Now, unfortunately, most folks in your position do it all wrong.

They either wait too long (those 6 years) and get couples counselling, realise they’re too late to the party, and things fall apart anyway.

Or they get a therapist to talk about their problems, spending years going in circles talking about their feelings without any real game plan or strategy or action.

Neither of these are the most effective things to do because they’re simply not action-oriented enough.

Therapy is by nature PAST-focused. It’s great for processing feelings and your past, but it’s not ideal for building strategies, getting clarity on your needs, and taking action.

That’s what you really need to do here.

And do it in a way that lets you dig deep into those questions around what you need, what your blind spots are, and how you’re really feeling…which is gonna require more than just talking.

Because talking is only one modality, and you’re going to need more than that.

Rather, you need a systematic, science-backed process to help you:

Pinpoint what’s actually wrong - Is this a relationship issue, or something deeper?
Clear the blocks that are keeping you stuck - So you stop second-guessing yourself.
Get a concrete strategy for what’s next - Stay and rebuild, or walk away with confidence.

This is exactly what I help executives with inside my Successfully in Love® program.

Over 3-6 months, we take you through a proven framework that gives you:

A science-backed way to understand your emotional disconnect and the blind spots behind it - and how to change that.
A strategy to fix it so you can move forward with clarity and control.
The ability to enter the second half of your life feeling excited about your future, not exhausted by it.

We do this over 3 - 6 months depending on how fast you want to work, and 99% of the time my clients get deep clarity in that time frame.

Whether to stay or go, how to improve their relationship, and ultimately how to feel confident that they’re entering that second phase of their life feeling excited about it, rather than exhausted.

If this resonates, let’s talk.

Feel free to book a call with me and I’ll show you how to start thinking through your next step.

You can also watch here: www.successfullyinlovewithlife.com/litestimonial to learn about how I can help you with your relationship.

Or www.successfullyinlovewithlife.com to learn about how I can help you with your career and income.