How do I feel better about myself? Why relationship coaching helps with everything.

A new client of mine asked me recently, how it is that I’m a relationship coach but can also help him with increasing his income - and helping him figure out what’s next in his career?

In fact, I know that what I will help him with will improve his overall life outcomes - including his health, too.

Here’s why.

Because ...drum roll...

Clearing your subconscious blocks changes everything.

Now, most ambitious professionals think their struggles - whether in their marriage, career, or health - are separate.

Which makes sense - from a strategy perspective, each arena requires a different strategy.

You need financial planning for your investments, and a good way to increase revenues.

You need healthy relationship practices to increase intimacy and connection.

You need strategies to build your career and climb that ladder.

Yes.

But beneath the surface level strategies, these different life areas are all closely connected.

Yes, the same invisible patterns shaping your relationship are also running the show in your work, your money, and even your body.

That’s because all of these external ‘outcomes’ in your life are fuelled and created by the ‘internal’ landscape that lives within you.

And that internal landscape is comprised for the most part, of your subconscious mind.

And as most of you know by now, the subconscious mind is a mysterious and wonderful big chunk of your brain where the majority of your life outcomes are dictated.

It literally runs 95-97% of your reality.

Meaning - what you experience externally is based on what is going on internally for you.

Now your subconscious can have blocks - from childhood - which are essentially wounds that you would have experienced, painful moments in your childhood, that created blockages in your subconscious and are now preventing you from having what you want.

Now, subconscious blocks affect everything.

They show up everywhere - your relationship, your career, your finances, your health.

The patterns that shape how you love someone are the same patterns that dictate how you lead, earn, and take care of yourself.

They might show up differently - sure. And you might have got lucky and be able to make a lot of money or have a good marriage, but they can show up in pesky and unsuspecting ways in other areas of your life.

So if you struggle with trust in your relationship, it’s not just about your partner. It’s likely affecting how you delegate at work, how you handle money, and how you show up in friendships.

If you fear conflict in your relationship, you probably avoid difficult conversations in business - costing you promotions, deals, and growth.

If you learned that love has to be earned, you’re probably overworking to prove your value in your career.

If you grew up in a home where stability felt uncertain, you may subconsciously sabotage financial success - keeping yourself in a constant state of stress. (This was my big one)

If deep down you don’t feel worthy of ease, you’ll keep making things harder than they need to be. (And this one too!

If you don’t feel supported at home, there’s a good chance you’re overcompensating in your career - taking on too much, carrying more than your share, proving your worth through achievement instead of feeling secure in it.

Blocks around your self-worth will dictate how you negotiate, how you set boundaries, and whether you allow yourself to receive - whether that’s support, love, recognition, or financial abundance.

If deep down you believe ease isn’t available to you, you’ll subconsciously make things harder than they need to be. You’ll keep grinding, keep taking on more, keep pushing even when it’s burning you out.

And let’s not forget - your body keeps the score.

Chronic stress, exhaustion, and even physical pain are often symptoms of emotional weight you haven’t addressed.

When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode - constantly bracing for impact, constantly feeling like it’s all on you - your energy stays depleted. It doesn’t matter how much you sleep or how many strategies you try; if you don’t eliminate the root blocks, then the exhaustion lingers.

This is why clearing your blocks isn’t just about feeling better in your relationship.

It’s about stepping into a different way of operating in every part of your life.

When you break free from these old patterns, everything moves.

It’s like you’re literally unblocking yourself.

Your income, your leadership, your energy, your connection will all improve.

Because the problem was never just your relationship, your career, or your health.

It was what was running underneath them all.

And your relationship is the most unfiltered reflection of your inner world.

The same blocks that create distance in your relationship are keeping you from scaling your income, stepping into leadership, and feeling at home in your own body.

When you clear what’s underneath the surface, success stops feeling like a grind - because you’re no longer working against yourself.

This is why I can be a relationship coach, laser in on the most important aspect of you - your relationship to yourself - and help you smash through blocks that will improve all other life outcomes.

Now, one key thing to call out here -

This is a lot more than what traditional coaching does.

Traditional executive coaching and therapy often stay at the surface - focused on mindset, communication strategies, or behavior change - bla bla bla.

But mindset alone isn’t enough if your subconscious patterns are wired for survival, control, or self-protection.

These are buried so deep in your subconscious, you rarely are even aware that you have them. They’re your blind spots.

If you’ve ever tried to "think positively," reframe your perspective, or use logic to change how you feel, only to find yourself stuck in the same cycles, you’ve already seen the limits of mindset work.

That’s because these patterns aren’t just mental - they’re physiological, emotional, and deeply ingrained. They’ve been running your decisions, reactions, and relationships for years without you even realizing it.

They are YOU.

Executive coaching teaches leadership strategies, but it rarely addresses why you overwork, why you struggle to delegate, or why you feel like you have to earn rest.

Therapy gives you insights into your past, but it often keeps you looping in awareness rather than shifting at the root level.

This work goes deeper. It rewires the hidden patterns that dictate how you lead, love, and live - not just by talking about them, but by removing the emotional and neurological weight keeping them in place.

When you shift at the subconscious level, clarity, confidence, and connection become effortless. You don’t have to force new habits or work to believe in yourself - you just operate differently, because the internal resistance is gone.

This isn’t about fixing surface-level behaviors. It’s about clearing what’s been running the show behind the scenes so that success, love, and freedom stop feeling like a grind - and start feeling natural.

And this is what I love to help people with!

I can help you smash through your blocks in rapid fire time.

In fact, we can break through a lot of these blocks quite quickly - and once we’ve done that, we can get to work on getting you what you need, the strategy to get there, and rehauling your life to be one that you are actually proud of and love to live.

Including your marriage ;)

If this sounds good to you, you can watch this video to learn more about my work (and investment rates) www.successfullyinlovewithlife.com

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