Can you keep your new year resolutions?

We’re in week 2 of 2024. 

I’m so curious: how is it going for you?

Are you still full of joy and excitement, eager to tackle your goals, wake up at the crack of dawn to get going, and zoom through everything you want to get done? 

Or have you slowly reverted back to your old life? Your normal life? Your December 2023 self, as if nothing had really changed? (Because in many ways, it hasn’t?)

Have your resolutions gradually fallen by the wayside? The shiny feeling of 2024 worn off already?

If so, or even just a little bit…congratulations, you’re like virtually everyone else out there. 

Most people give up their new year resolutions within a few weeks of January hitting. And on average, humans only keep about 19% of the habits that they try to set. 

That’s over their whole life times. 

Think of all the new years you have in your life, and how many resolutions you’re likely to keep to hit that number?

And that’s the average.

The reality is, it would be utterly bizarre to expect to enter the second week of January feeling like an entirely brand new person just like that. 

It would be bizarre to expect you to feel fresh and excited, full of new habits that you’re implementing perfectly and easefully. 

It would be bizarre to go to bed as someone on the 31st December 2023 and wake up as someone wholly different.

The long-entrenched behaviours and patterns that got you to where you got to at the end of the year…well, these aren’t going to transform over night.

Perhaps you're feeling a bit tired already, a bit worn down, a bit over it all?

Perhaps you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed, with so much to do, a long year ahead, and you’re unsure of how to do it all.

Perhaps you’re feeling a bit frustrated with yourself, ashamed at how quickly you’ve relapsed into the behaviours you wanted to change.

All of this is normal.

You’re human.

We are all human.

We aren’t machines. 

We aren’t robots.

We aren’t perfect.

But let me ask you:

Has there ever been any other time in history where you could actually go out there and get what you want with such ease?

Has there ever been a time in history where there have been as many resources out there available to you?

As much support?

Support, resources, tools, techniques…for literally every area of your life?

Even the most important area of your life? 

The area of your life upon which everything else starts, upon which everything else is built?

Your relationships?

We live in an era where you have the power to transform your relationships into everything you have ever dreamed of.

For most of us, anyway. Those reading this on a screen somewhere in the Anglo American world. Feeling safe. Feeling comfortable. Feeling warm. 

For all those who say we’re entering another pandemic of loneliness, mass disconnection, technology ruining us all…I hear you.

I agree. I agree that we are up against a lot of barriers to connection. 

There are a lot of reasons why we can lock ourselves into our offices and continue grinding away at whatever tech-related business we find ourselves in and forget to ever walk out and open our hearts to connect with our loved ones. 

Sure. I get it. The world has changed.

But I would also argue that with all of these changes, we have more resources. 

We have more access. 

We have more tools. 

We have more of a rich vocabulary, of syntax, of colour with which to paint the previously unspoken. 

To describe the previously unsaid. 

To make sense of the previously misunderstood. 

And we, reading this, we have freedom. We have the freedom to choose what we want for ourselves.

This is everything. 

This is such a privilege. 

We live in an age where you can create your ultimate relationship. 

You’re free to do this.

And you can learn how to do so from the comfort of your home - with the aid of a computer and internet connection - to learn all the tools and techniques, through a structured methodology that has been tested by science and hundreds of others before you - with a trusted confidante and accountability partner to hold your hand and guide you, virtually, across the world, wherever you are. 

That’s pretty amazing, right?

That’s actually bananas. Even 20 years ago, this would be unfathomable for most of us.

And the other reality is, change is hard. Behavioural change is hard. Shifting your patterns, your behaviours, your way of being to achieve different results - is hard. Learning new things and even knowing what you need to learn….is hard. 

So no wonder trying to change on your own is so tricky. No wonder the goals you set out for ourselves alone are so hard to maintain. So hard to achieve.

 I get it. 

You’re human. 

You’re human - and change is hard.

You have to understand: the brain doesn’t want change. The brain wants safety. 

To your brain, sitting at home complaining about how hard things are, how no one wants to be with you, how awful your ex is, how everyone else has the happy relationship but you don’t…is simply what the brain wants us to do (and makes us do) because it’s comfortable, it feels safe, it’s familiar.

The brain isn’t there to hurt you but it can sabotage you. 

It’s not your brain's fault - again, you’re human.

Change is just bloody HARD.

What you need is a proven system. A structure. A methodology. And of course, an accountability partner. A support system.

And you can have this - within a phone call and a few clicks of the mouse. 

It’s pretty wild.

This is exactly what I am here to help you with. 

What I have built, and will continue building this 2024, is here to help ambitious professionals like you (and the many, many before that I have had the honour of serving). My own 2024 goal is to continue supporting successful professionals like you to create their ultimate relationship. In a science-based, structured, safe, and systematic way - with me as your support. 

So, if you’re wanting 2024 to be the year that you find your life partner, or improve your marriage, or deepen your own self love…but you’re already feeling a bit flat just two weeks in, you’re already feeling a bit deflated ...it's not because you’re bad. Or lazy. Or incompetent. Or because it won’t or can’t happen to you. 

The people who win at life, the real go-getters, are the ones who see the support in front of them, seize it, and squeeze the most value out of it. They throw their all into solving the problems that most other people complain about. They refuse to settle for scraps another day. They refuse to be a victim. They refuse to take a back seat and spend yet another year complaining.

I have 2 x 1:1 coaching spots left. If you’d like to apply, please DM me ‘2024’. 

I’ll be honoured to support you.