Blog Posts
How do I stop self-sabotaging?
Our minds are so good at spinning up stories that terrify us. From projections of ‘what if?’, perpetually living in the future, worst case scenarios, hypothetical nightmares, and the general feeling that ‘this could go horribly wrong’, we have a lot of things we need to protect ourselves against. Pair this with criticism by people we love and respect, and a foreboding awareness that we’re doing something people might not understand, it’s no wonder we fear rocking the boat.
Why do hardworking high achievers struggle so much with relationships?
For those that are single, there’s a quiet, burning ache to find a partner. A longing, a yearning, a desire to find that connection. Dates can feel fun and can be exciting, but they rarely really scratch that itch. Rarely do they bring the deep connection that we crave. In the back of our minds, we wonder – is this it?
How do I know what to do? Listening to the voice within
It’s one thing to discern what’s coming up for us and another entirely to know what the message is. How often have we felt an instinct, gut response, or some sort of inner awareness coming from within but been utterly unsure as to what it’s trying to tell us?
Can I trust my gut instinct about my relationship? Why discernment is important
I will never forget going to my coach, feeling unsure and unclear about what to do about my first engagement. Everything on the surface looked right, but inside I felt tremendous anxiety – and I couldn't shake out exactly why. We had the picture perfect relationship and everyone seemed to envy the life we lived, so why did I lie awake at night wondering, "Is this really it?"
How do I find a better work-life balance?
Whether you’re a student, teacher, sales leader, founder, or even looking for work opportunities, we’re all trying to navigate that tension between work and personal life. Rarely are the two interconnected. And when they are – through remote work, digital nomadism, working with a partner, or simply being so into your work that it becomes a lifestyle – there’s still further tension here.
How can I feel more well rested? The Seven Types of Rest
We often think of rest as sleep, lounging in a hammock with a pina colada, or collapsing on the couch in front of the TV. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, however, sees rest a bit differently. Her book challenges the notion that sleep alone can fully rejuvenate our energy levels, highlighting the importance of different forms of rest.
Why is self-connection important? Part 2
Without a deep, authentic, whole-hearted connection to yourself, you cannot know yourself fully. When you do not know yourself fully, all of the decisions you make, relationships you build, work you pursue, and life you create is coming from a disconnected place. They are not in full integrity with who you are at your core. Coming from this space, they are likely to be superficial solutions to what you think you want, need, and believe…
Why is self-connection important? Part 1
Almost every founder, leader, and professional I worked with wanted to improve their sense of balance, clarity, and direction in life. To get really clear on where they’re going next, whether they’re the right person to take on a certain task or mission, and make better decisions. De-risking the process was always important, and taking manageable micro-steps forward to begin moving the needle on the changes they wanted to see, was also key.
“Is this it?” Why it’s important to act & we have less time than we think
Ostensibly, I had it all. The apartment, the beautiful city to live in, the well-paid job that I loved, the instagram-perfect relationship, the big overseas wedding planned. But with the silence that came with the solitude of the pandemic, the inner voice inside grew louder. And so my Covid experience, whilst incredibly isolating, was a period of intense self-connection.
What do I do next in my career? How to figure it out
Often the totally rational decisions we make are so logical and calculated that they are removed from who we truly are. They make us out like chess pieces, bizarre little pawns in the world of corporate, making moves that will win us points and get us up the ladder...they miss the other parts of us that are equally important: our hearts, our desires, and our very real physical needs.
What has connection got to do with sales?
Strengthening sales folk to become go-getters, sales champions, and challengers necessitates teaching effective communication, active listening, building rapport, and networking. This has historically been helpful in terms of arming your sales teams with the necessary relationship building skills to go and close those deals, but it’s typically fallen short…
Where does the body, embodied cognition, embodiment, and gut instinct come in?
Since the body perceives, takes in and processes everything around us, the body can therefore be seen as the best source of self-information for each individual. Our minds filter information based on our mental map, but the body, fueled by our subconscious, is constantly taking it all in. It is also connected to our deepest sense of self, to our deepest fears, truths and desires.
What is Transformative Coaching? And solutions-focused coaching? What about other forms of coaching?
Rooted in modern humanistic coaching, it believes your paradigm, inner world of beliefs, assumptions, values, and expectations, hold the key to unlocking greater possibilities for ways of being in life….using your own inner potential, help you source new solutions. In other words, transformative coaching helps fish see the water that they don’t know they are swimming in.
“Meditate, and just let go” Why does meditating and just ‘letting go’ not seem to stop my anxiety or make it fully go away?
If clients tell me that they are anxious, or have fears, imposter syndrome, a niggling sense that something is off, I don’t tell them to just meditate or breathe through it. I have tried to meditate and breathe my way through an unhappy relationship and I can tell you, it doesn’t work ;)
Why coaching? What is it?
Simply put, coaching can help you achieve specific goals or outcomes, personal and professional, through a dialogic process of questioning, reflecting, clarifying, challenging, and decision-making about what you can do.
Why are we all burned out? What can we do about it?
If I am oblivious to the internal drivers within me, the things I ‘need’ to thrive, it follows then that I am likely to miss opportunities to satisfy these drivers. It also follows, that in my bid to achieve, or please others, or fulfil expectations, I might completely neglect these areas – my needs, without even realising.
Symptoms of burnout: founders, leaders, high-achievers, type A’s…what should we look out for?
It doesn’t demand McKinsey style workweeks or PhDs, nor does it exclusively happen to high-achievers and type A’s. Unfortunately, with the current cultural sentiments around anxiety as all part of the “new normal”, burnout has slunk into the background as something we all hear about, but rarely give attention to.
I’m exhausted. How can I improve my time management?
A perennial time optimist, I’ve a horrible habit of underestimating how long something will take. When I’m asked how long something will take, I’ll often respond “10 minutes”, despite it probably requiring more like 20 minutes.
How to calm my anxiety? How embodiment can help
I learned that rather than running from my anxiety, or hating it, finding it irritating, annoying, and beating myself with a stick about it, I should actually, indeed, just accept it. But more than accept it – this wasn’t going to be another way of settling.
How can I make better decisions? The Embodied Integrity way
…the bigger, more existential questions – what do I really want to do with my life, what sort of partner do I really want to be with, what do I envision true health and relaxation to look like for me – these paralysed me.